Feeling pestered--vent

[daisymom06]

So, I have a long-time "friend"...it has kind of turned into a obligation friendship because we have known each other for so long. I pretty much put more into the friendship and seem to care more about it than she does. Anyway she just started a business with 31 gifts (kind of like pampered chef, avon, scentsy kind of thing) and it seems like she only wants to talk about when I want to book a party. She tries to act interested about what's going on in my life, but then she gets down to business about when to book a party. After I tell her I don't know quite yet and I'll probably talk to some people to see when a good day is she just stops talking (now our "talking" is just over gchat). She never calls and rarely texts. Really, the more I get pestered the more I don't want to host a party, but then I feel guilty and that I should support my friends' business. I can't vent on facebook and it just kills me because I totally want to be passive aggressive and blunt, but can't. So, thanks for listening to my vent!

[Zoe's Mom]

Be blunt...No use wasting your time to start someone elses business unless there is freindship or value in return....Basic business sense! If you feel the need to host a party out of obligation, do so...but friendship for obligation isn't really a friendship? Just my two cents.

[Emily]

I hate those MLM's. I used to sell stuff like that and now have family who does but I just can't get into hosting one more tupperware kinda party. I was kind of hoping those pyramid schemes, er, companies would go away since more and more people shop online, but nope. I could rant all day, but if you don't want to host a party, I agree with Deanna. Be blunt.

[Liz]

:yeahthat I agree with both Emily and Zoe's mom. Just tell her you aren't interested. I had someone from high school try to get in touch with me again--even went to get coffee with her. I was optimistic cause I felt like we have enough in common to be friends but all she wanted to talk about was her business and me "joining" to make her more money. I quickly told her I wasn't interested and that ended that. On the opposite side of the spectrum, one of my best friends is in a mlm business like that and asked if I wanted to host a party and at first I thought it might be fun but just couldn't fit it into my schedule. So I let her know I wasn't interested anymore and she was totally fine with that--we are still good friends. :) I find the mlm's a bit annoying lol

[Hethyr]

I've told a friend I'm not interested before, and she took it well. :) I do not like mlm parties in general, I've been to a fun one last year but honestly they are not my thing and I won't host one. I was up front from the beginning. Still (sometimes) have felt with friends that participate some 'pressure' about it, but I know it's just me feeling it and they want to talk about it (but they're not asking me to book parties, it really was me feeling bad about it). Anyway, I agree - be honest with her. If she gets mad and ruins your friendship over it, then (I feel) you know it wasn't a true friendship.

I have found that I really don't even have time for all of the amazing people in my life, and it sucks! I refuse to waste time on those who are not true friends.

[BeckMom]

Uurrrggghhh! I hate it when people "use" friendships to sell you on something! I have blocked feeds from friends on FB for that. I had some friends from high school do a reunion get together and it turned out to be an Amway spiel! I was so pissed!

I agree with being blunt. Life's too short for non-real friends...